Family Coercion in Pakistan;

I am 22 years old and I want to become independent, but my parents control every aspect of my life. Whenever I don’t do what they want, they either hit me or stop me from leaving the house. They don’t allow me to work, even though I want to get a job and support myself. They constantly insult me, tell me that I’m not capable of anything, and mentally and emotionally abuse me. They often tell me to leave the house, but at the same time they don’t allow me to become independent or earn my own living. I feel trapped and don’t know what to do. I would like legal advice on what rights I have and what steps I can take to become independent while ensuring my safety.

Answer:

Legal Position (Pakistan):

At 22 years of age, you are a major (adult) under Pakistani law and have the legal right to make your own decisions regarding your employment, residence, education, and personal life.

Your parents cannot legally prevent you from taking a job, starting a business, or living independently. If they unlawfully confine you, physically assault you, or use force to stop you from leaving, you may seek protection from the police or approach the relevant court for appropriate legal relief.

As an adult, you are also generally not entitled to claim maintenance from your father merely because you choose to live separately. Once you are capable of earning your own livelihood, it becomes your responsibility to support yourself.

Practical advice:

• Secure employment or another lawful source of income.
• Arrange safe accommodation before leaving home.
• Keep your identity documents (CNIC, educational certificates, bank documents) with you.
• If you are subjected to violence, wrongful confinement, or threats, immediately report the matter to the police and seek legal assistance.

In summary, the law recognizes your right to live independently and pursue the career or business of your choice. No one can legally compel an adult to remain confined at home or prevent them from earning a lawful livelihood.